All our lives we're trained to take responsibility for our decisions, to admit when we make mistakes, and to take it upon ourselves to improve bad situations. In other words, we're trained to blame ourselves. This strategy will help you reverse your insidious training, and remove the guilt you feel when things don't go right. Repeat after me: it's not your fault.
Instead of feeling guilty all the time, find out who IS responsible, and blame them. You can blame silently, or you can blame the person him or her self, or you can tell other people about that person's faults. It doesn't really matter how you do it, just so long as the responsible party is singled out (at least in your mind) and the guilt laid firmly at his or her feet. Soon you'll begin to truly feel the liberation of not being the problem. You'll feel greater solidarity with everyone else who's not responsible, too. It'll be like your own club.
Sometimes, however, you might find yourself in the midst of a problem that has spiraled out of control, and you might not be able to pinpoint precisely whose fault it is! In cases like these, don't be a slave to strict cause and effect analysis. Perhaps your parents, your first grade teacher, those damned kids, or the French are NOT to blame for this particular incident. But then again, maybe they are. Blaming them is the safest course.
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